Weekend Update Vol. 1

Erm…so this post is a tad late due to technical error…lets go back in time and pretend it’s the first week of July, m’kay.

1.Last week I spent 5 days in the blazing sun + record breaking heat for work. #canadaday #feelslike47. It was intense. I was drenched with sweat the whole time. #TMI #sogross. Benefits included: losing 5 lbs of water weight, losing an additional 5 lbs due to zero access to A&W and their siren songs (ie teen burger + onion rings….my (hangs head in shame) lunch of choice), getting a killer tan whilst wearing 50+ sunscreen, and spending a few night at a downtown hotel meant I got to party like I was 25 again (lols #sad) but I did find a new favorite band whose lead singer leaned out for a final note duet with me which Ryan tells me I nailed…eventually. #dreamscomingtrue

2. I bought this nail polish to jazz up the ‘ol tips for Canada day and hold the phone I. Am. Impressed! I have NEVER had a manicure last longer than a day or two and this lasted CHIP free for over a week. I’m honestly amazed and buying all the colours. Especially this one and this one.

3. Whelp, summer is officially in full swing, and somehow every year I forget how much I actually hate summer dressing. Like, it’s really hard to feel pulled together when all your bits are showing, or vice versa, you are sweating like a hog. Thankfully, I was able to score a few key pieces from my all time favourite JF and will share a round up + ways to wear soon!

4. I am so GD glad that one pieces are in this year (see my A&W addiction above). I have always been a two piece wearer, but I am a total convert, and it’s probably about time.#threekidslater #notasyoungasioncewas. Ryan bought me this one that I thought I would hate but I actually love, and I just bought this one this weekend and I will say the online photo doesn’t do it justice. I also bought these high-waisted bottoms, which I realize does not a one piece make, but on my short torso…almost. Loving them, too

*Note:

…Although I wholeheartedly believe you should wear whatever the F you want and will probably still be rocking a bikini in my 80’s, not giving AF.

5. Ry and I watched this on Netflix and I cannot stop talking/thinking about it….like, it killed me. Even if you are not normally a Steve Martin or Martin Short fan (although, um….why no? “Get over it” and “ Father of the bride” are some pretty great classics) you WILL find this funny. And if you don’t, you need to re-evaluate yourself, cause this shit is real.

Later gators

37 things I wish I knew before I turned 37

 

Yesterday was my 37th birthday and It’s official. I’m old.

I work with such young peeps that I sometimes forget that not only am I not even remotely close to their age, but I can’t even relate to them in a cool big sister kinda way (which I always pretend I can) because I am old enough to be their MOTHER… Whaaaaaaaaaaa-t! It’s a scary time.

But with age comes wisdom (or so I’m telling myself) and I’ve made a list of 37 things I wish I knew before I was 37 (for all the young-in’s out there take notes).

1. Who you are is more important than who others think you are.

2. You should never be embarrassed or awkward about doing something nice for someone else.

3. Asking for help/letting others help you doesn’t mean that you are incapable, and they will not think less of you because of it.

4. People are judging you WAY less than you think they are.

5. Not everybody needs to like you, but being likeable will help.

6. Food made at home always tastes better and is easier to make than you think.

7. A clean house is a happy house.

8. Your kids are going to grow up fast AF. Enjoy the good times and forget the rest.

9. Drinking = Fun, but being the drunkest person in the room should never be #goals

10. Driving is not as scary as you think it’s going to be. Just get your license, it will be fine. (I was 32….#facepalm)

11. You might not be good at ALL stuff but you’re good at SOME stuff. Focus on that.

12. If you don’t like the way you are being perceived, change the way you are behaving.

13. You cannot control what other people say or do but you can control how you react to it and how you let it affect you.

14. Money isn’t everything but it makes things A LOT easier. So SAVE as much as you can.

15. People will disappoint you.

16. People will surprise you (in a good way).

17. People will see in you things you cannot see in yourself.

18. Self-help books are for all of us, not just losers.

19. Take care of your hair. Witch wig is not a good look.

20. Take care of your skin (wash your face and stay out of the sun!)

21. Pay attention in school, it’s not as pointless as it may seem.

22. Don’t grow up too fast, enjoy being a kid.

23. Don’t grow up too slow, adulting has it’s perks.

24. People cannot read your mind (it’s f#@$ked up in there) so…

25. It’s OK to tell people how you feel.

26. It’s OK to not be as strong as you think you are/pretend to be/want to be.

27. You are human. It’s OK to make mistakes.

28. Dreaming is not the same as doing.

29. Honesty is not always the best policy, but usually it is.

30. Looking good = feeling good

31. Exercise will make you feel like you kick ass in all areas of your life not just in the bod dept.

32. But your bod is fine BTW, just the way it is.

33. People aren’t judging you on your looks they are judging you on your behavior (if they are judging you at all… see #4)

34. You will never regret going, but you will for sure regret NOT going.

35. Gross food makes you feel gross. Eat well.

36. You are allergic to chocolate so stop. eating. it.

37. You are in control of this life… You can do ANYTHING you want. (well, probably not brain surgery…I feel like that requires a really specific skill set but…most definitely, anything moderately realistic is well within your reach! So go and get ‘er!)

Did I miss anything? Shout it out in the comment’s. I need to work on my 40 by 40 list, so ANY ideas will help a girl out 😉

Bathroom

So, Erm..this was my bathroom. 
Let’s go over the offensive-ness. (Although, it’s fairly obvious!)
1. The boxed in florescent light.
2. The Chipped builder grade mirror. 
3. The GREEN MARBLE counter top. (WHY?!?!?!?!?!)
4. The grody shower curtain rod. 
5. The falling off vent.
6. The missing toilet screw cover.
7. You can’t really tell from this picture, but the tub is super shallow ( I guess “standard” but I mean COME ON!)
8. I was not helping matters with those god awful IKEA shelves, the paint colour, and the mess! #fail

Right around the time that I was planning our move into the dream home. We got the news that the co-op wanted to update our bathroom. At the time, I was like “who cares? We will be living it up at the dream home sooner than later. Take your bathroom reno and shove it”. 

Thankfully, Ryan is not as fanciful as I, and was able to keep his head level enough to make sure he agreed to the reno, and scheduled the contractor, and added bonus, researched some bathtubs  and found us one that was on sale until the same day as the dream home draw. 


Sope, we watched the live presentation of my dreams crashing/burning and then promptly went weeping (me, not Ry) to Lowe’s to pick up this sweet tub which we begged them to use instead of the standard tub (read: not suitable for adult bathing unless you like the majority of your body OUT of the water…), and thankfully they agreed! #win.

It’s a very simple 19″ tub and we opted to go with no arm rests (I was thinking more room for child bathing), but I do miss them when reading in the tub. #beggars=choosers. It also has a very slim side so there is NO space to put bottles, etc. if that’s your thing. (And something I did not really consider at the time.)


For the rest of the bathroom we had very limited choices to pick from for the tile, flooring and counter top and none were anywhere near what I would have picked if I had free rein, but I think we ended up with the best of the worst, and we convinced them to change the counter top in the powder room too in order to “maintain consistency”. So, marble green counter tops… buh-byeee!



I am already SO much happier with the bathrooms, which were a huge bane of my existence, and I am now jazzed to FINISH them up. 

Here is what is on the agenda for the main bath. 


1. replace the mirror. It’s a bit too small. The kids can only see the tops of their heads :/ . I’m leaning towards this one from STRUCTUBE. I also HATE the triple mirror situation we have going on but the medicine cabinet is a board call, (I had asked that it just be removed, but was denied!) and Ryan tells me he can’t live his life without his magnifying mirror, so I’m still thinking that one through. 


2. Replace the light fixture. It’s a bit dated and I bought one for the powder room that I really like from Home Depot (although I can’t seem to find it on the website) I might just go the easy route and use it up here too. 


3. Paint the vanity. For some reason the vanities are custom size, and since theoretically they are still in fine condition, they left them, but they need some love…I’m hoping paint and new hardware will make them less of an eyesore. 


4. Change the almond outlet. We already have this ready and waiting. 


5. Change the door knob. Ditto on this. I have these oil-rubbed bronze ones for all the doors upstairs and the powder room. 


6. We shrunk our shower curtain in the wash, which was just a white waffle curtain from Target. We will need a new one, but for now we are just using the one that came with the shower rod.

So, here’s what I’m thinking ’bout.

Bathroom update plans! I cannot wait to see this room come together!
But, even with NOTHING in there yet it looks waaaaaay better than it did AND being able to actually soak in the tub has literally changed. my. life. 
Bathroom update plans! I cannot wait to see this room come together!


Since part of “project get it together” is about finishing up spaces in our house I’m really hoping I can stay committed to getting this done. With this being one of the smaller rooms (smallest?) I’m hoping that it will give me the push I need to continue on with the rest of the house! The struggle, she is real. Wish me luck!

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Get Your Book On Vol.1


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As part of my recent focus on self-care, I have been burning up the ‘ol library card. Last year I read close to nada books, and getting back into reading has been Ah-mazing. It’s crazy how relaxing it can be and how much I enjoy it. As a kid, I read a ridiculous amount, I always had a book on the go and I would read ANYTHING. As I got older, I became much more particular about what I was reading, but once I had chosen something, I would stick with it until the bitter end…no matter how bad I thought it was. 
 
*Note: I can vividly remember getting super riled up about how bad a particular book was, and Ryan suggesting I just not finish it, and me being all “Waaaainn! If only that was an option”!
 

Now, the time I have to read is very precious and I’m not wasting it on any sub-par material #sorrynotsorry

I’m not really into book reviews…I guess I like to be surprised? I dunno. (I rarely even read book jackets…weird, right?)Lately I’ve been pinning reading lists (check out my pin board here)and then picking a few titles to place on hold at the Library, and for the most part, they’ve been good picks. 
 

With that in mind I thought I would share with you guys what I’ve been reading lately. Maybe with a few comments, but not really reviews…Anyhoot, here we go.

 

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FICTION


All the Light We Cannot See: A Novel by Anthony Doer

Turtles All the Way Down by John Green 
Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
Truly Madly Guilty by Liane Moriarty
Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon

The Bell Jar  by Sylvia Plath

 

The Marriage Pact: A Novel by Michelle Richmond
This one is a bit of a far fetch, but I really liked the writing style so I stuck with it. Also, hilariously, Ryan and I felt like there was some good marriage advice in here, lol. If you’ve read it don’t judge us 😉

SELF-IMPROVEMENT
After reading this I had a panic attack while running a staff meeting, and then said “Oh my God, just like Dan Harris”. No one knew what I was talking about but I think I’ma start meditating. 


The Total Money Makeover: Classic Edition: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey

I’m sure you will be hearing more about this one as Ryan and I have drank the Dave Ramsey Kool-Aid and are going full on gazelle. 

 
WHAT DIDN’T MAKE THE CUT

No disrespect to these two books, but I just couldn’t get into them. #keepingitreal


What have you been reading lately? Any suggestions?


 

 

 

 

self-care

Last year was a bit of a gong show and, like I mentioned in this post, this year I’m determined to take control of this ‘ol thing called life.

To do that, I’ve really got to focus on what I need to be able to give more to the ones that need me. We hear it all the time. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else, and I was definitely NOT taking care of me, and the humans in my vicinity are taking the brunt. It sucks for all of us.

“Self-care” is not my favorite phrase (I don’t know why, it just grinds my gears) but it’s the buzzword of the moment, so we will stick with it. 


*note: Have you ever googled self-care to see what it is exactly that you should be doing to take care of yourself, and the list is like 1. Shower 2. Pet your cat 3. Take a nap….Erm? 


This, for me, was not overly helpful. So I figured, my first step needed to be making my own list of things to care for moi. Here is what I came up with.
Project get it together 
part deux: self-care for Ter
 

 

Habits (good/bad)
 
1. Less drinking. (Gah! I know, I know, nobody wants this. Sober Teri SUCKS, but she’s getting old, and beer = Benjamin’s, and my liver is cirrhosising.  I’m not going full 12 steps just dialing it back a notch)
 
2. NO BUYING LUNCH! (I am not a Kardashian. This is extravagant behaviour that can no longer continue!)
 
3. Pay off debt and start saving for the future (Bo-ring! But a necessary evil to being an adult, and the older I get the more this has become a stress) 
 
4.Drink more water ( It makes such a difference in my brains ability to function #whodathunk?) 
Relax
 
5. Bath time (We just got a new tub and I’m SO happy! I can’t wait to make bath time a more regular part of my evening routine!) 

6. Meditate/carve out some “quiet” time. (I NEED to let my mind just be sometimes.)
 
7. Read (I barely read any books last year and it sucked. I’m firing up the ol’ library card and getting my book on!)
 
Energize
 
8. Iron pills (I’m anemic, but very rarely remember to take my pills…lame, cause they really work :/)
 
9. Exercise (I really like running outside, but I’m not hardcore enough to run when it’s -20. Now that the weather is starting to warm up again I’m hoping to get back into it!)
 
10. Eat better/more often ( I also have low blood sugar (I’m such a treat, right?) so eating often, and eating right are keys to me not losing it over nothing… Hangry is legit , yo)


Family

11. No more bringing work home. (I’m trying SO hard to leave work at work right now…but the struggle is real :/)


12. Plan more family outings (when I am home I want to make sure we are having fun and not just lolly-gagging around…although sometimes that’s the best time!)


13. Spend more quality time with Ry (It’s so tough finding time to hang out just us, but I want to try and be more intentional about the time we do get to spend together, and maybe spring for a sitter every once in awhile. #sacrilege)


As with all self-care lists I suppose, in the end its a bit “Uh, yeah…you weren’t doing that already?”, but I guess that’s the whole problem. “Nah, I wasn’t”. So I’mma just leave this here, and see if I can follow through with some/any of it. 

What are some of the things you are doing for self-care? Have you found it’s made a difference in your daily life? Hit me up with the dets, I’m dying to know how adults are adulting.


Dream Home Confessions

OK, I have a confession to make…

I was convinced (No seriously, convinced!)  that Ryan and I were going to win the CHEO dream home, and by convinced I mean, scarily unrealistically attached to the idea. 

CHEO Dream Home

I must have done the virtual walk through like a thousand times, had planned out where everything would go once we had moved in and had visions of what our life was GOING to be like when we were confirmed Dream Home winners. I get that this is part of the fun of buying a ticket, but I was crossing the line here. And, whomp whomp, *spoiler alert, we didn’t win. 

I was crushed. I had made all the plans. Our life was going to be so much easier, funner, fancier when we lived in the Dream Home. I realize that this is cray, but you guys….I wanted it so bad (insert foot stomp here).


Ryan kept reminding me that we bought tickets this year, yes to dream of the big win, but also to support the hospital where Vaughn had his tonsils and adenoids removed this past summer. Due to him refusing his pain medication we also spent a sleepover in the emergency room and I tells ya, I was beyond grateful that we were only there for a tonsillectomy/pain management and not for something more serious, as I saw some things that were truly heartbreaking. And how lucky are we, to have a children’s hospital so close by, if we ever really do need it! 


*Note:  When we did the initial walk through of the house I might have been quoted as saying “you couldn’t pay me to live here” so I mean, well played universe, well played. 

Lately, life has been kicking me in the nads and winning the Dream Home felt like it would be such an easy fix (and a complete upgrade!). It would be stress free. We would have space to spread out, entertain, and organize ourselves so we were not always tripping over our stuff, or each other. All of the spaces would be finished, which would relieve the stress of so many unfinished projects. Our time and money would be freed up to spend with our friends/family. 

We would have also won a second vehicle which would allow Ry to get around while I’m at work, so he would not feel so cooped up. The free year of Molly Maid service was also going to be key, ’cause free maid service = life(I’m assuming). And while all this was happening I was going to be able to FINALLY just relax, live my life and enjoy my family. 


Alas, it was not meant to be. After gaining some perspective slash having no choice but to carry on and face the brutal reality of life, I have come to the conclusion that 1. Our situation is not awful and could definitely be worse, and b. I’m in control of what is happening in my life and banking on winning my way to a “better” life is so dang stupid. I’m determined to make some changes to make my home, and life, a tad bit dreamier. 

PROJECT GET IT TOGETHER 
part 1: THE HOUSE
 
 


1.FINISH THE BASEMENT! If we could just get the basement together, we could have a dedicated space for the kiddos to play which would free up SO MUCH SPACE on the main level. 


This is where we are starting. #hoarderscalledtheywanttheirhouseback

 

 Our VERY unfinished basement


This is really the catalyst for all the other rooms so I just NEED to focus on getting it done!


2. Once the basement is complete, and most of the toys are down there. I can then concentrate on finishing up the other spaces. I also need to be disciplined enough to finish something and then leave it alone already. 


The kids have already been in all three bedrooms…it’s crazy! 

 The Original Nursery. It has also been Vaughn and Lilah's shared bedroom, a playroom, and is currently Lilah's bedroom!

 

Jonas' nursery which has also been Lilah's room, Vaughn and Lilah's shared room. OUR room, Lilah, Vaughn and Jonas' shared room and is currently the boys shared room...whew!


There is nothing I can do to make this house bigger. But, we love living in this community, we love our proximity to amenities, we love the kids’ school, and none of that would have been able to come with us to the so-called Dream Home.  

The reality is, we probably never would have been able to afford to maintain a big house like that and would have needed to sell it anyway (I mean which wouldn’t have sucked either-it’s currently on the market for $1.4M by the actual winner.)

Our lives are really up in the air right now with Ryan out of work, but we have decided to take control and make some changes that will allow us to make “the dream” closer to reality. 

I get the feeling that no matter where you are on the food chain of success none of us feel like we are where we should be, and that’s dumb. Who says we have to be anywhere… I think that’s the biggest lesson I learned out of all this Dream Home reflection. I don’t need a big house, or a fancy car to be happy. I just need to be happy, and fortunately I’m in control of my own happiness, and I’m going to try my darn-est to remember that. So, wherever you are in life I hope you will join me in trying to make it a bit easier, funner, fancier…happier. Because, dudes, this is it.

 

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it"

Holla, 2017.

Being Santa took a lot out of me this year. I never felt like I could get a handle on anything and the mom guilt…it ran deep. 


Examples: We missed our usual Christmas Parade, didn’t drive around to check out the lights, didn’t make it through our book advent (which I put together three days late), didn’t go to our usual Christmas tree farm to get our tree and instead bought one from the Canadian Tire parking lot (for shame), squeaked in our Santa visit by the skin of our teeth ON Christmas Eve, the list, she goes on.  I don’t know if it was work (super busy), three Christmas’ to make magical (basically impossible), or a heart two sizes too small, but I am SO done (and if you know me you know this is nada like me…we have been known to leave Christmas decorations up until February *insert hide face in shame emoji.) Thankfully, I don’t think the kids are going to hold it against me.

*Note: Santa’s expression says it all…

So, today you will find me packing up all. the. things. purging, cleaning, organizing. Shedding the skin of 2016, and heading into the New Year all sleek and on fleek. (Is that what the youngins are saying?) you know, getting ready for a brand new year. 

So, whether your Holidays were on point, or not, (someone pry the urban dictionary away from my old, uncool hands) I think we can all agree that the backside of 2016 is a wonderful sight. 2017 I have high hopes for you. 

Let’s get this show on the road. 

WIWW + Halloween Update

When I wrote this post on the topic of Halloween we were planning our Pee Wee’s Playhouse costumes. #Halloweenfail #maybenextyear. Many factors lead to the demise of that theme including me being away for the better part of the week for work, lack of toddler sized slim grey suits, and an inability to agree on which five characters we should be (there are so many options to choose from!). So on Sunday, (Yup, the day before Halloween) We booked it to PartyCity and found the strong man shirt, the Women’s Ringmaster Accessory kit #poorvaughn, a beard, a mustache, black balloons and face paint. Mix in the cowardly lion costume from last year, add a few pom poms to a sweater and voila…the Muhl Family Circus.

Circus Freak show family Halloween costume.
All week Vaughn was talking about how he was going to be a police officer for Halloween and I was starting to feel mom guilt about making him be our ring leader (and a sexy one at that), but Halloween night he rocked it and was the star of the show. #Ibetterstartsavingfortherapynow

I’ve also been wearing clothes. These are not the most exciting outfits, but in keeping with the true spirit of WIWW I feel like I need to post them anyway. If I want better pictures I have to wear better outfits…which I think is the whole point of why/how WIWW was created. So with my head hung in shame here is what I’ve been wearing. 

turtleneck + boots
turtleneck / tank(old) / jeans(old) / boots(old)

blouse + leopard flats
top / jeans(old) / flats

ponte dress
dress / tights / boots(old)

Later Gators,

pleated poppy

This is Halloween

I’m not going to say Halloween is my jam, because really, it’s not. I don’t like spooky, gore, or candy corn. I do, however, like to dress up, and thankfully, the rest of the fam is on board with my insistence on a family group costume every year (so far) for the ol’ Trick or Treat. 

Last year, Jonas was only a few months old and I didn’t think I had it in me (Hence the store bought Paw Patrol costumes), but in true Terianne fashion, I changed my mind at the last minute and threw together the wizard of oz.

Skye, Chase and Chickaletta. Paw Patrol is on a roll.
Paw Patrol


Family Costume 2015. The Wizard of Oz. Wicked witch, Tin Man, Lion, Scarecrow and of course, Dorothy.
The wizard of oz
Thankfully, we had two events to go to so the costumes didn’t go to waste, and also, the kids dress up as Sky and Chase about 45 times per week so it’s all good. 

2014 was the year of Frozen for us (and the rest of the world, amiright?) so there was no debate on this one. I also made the kids wear their costumes to Lilah’s Frozen Fourth birthday party a few days later. #twoforone 

Family Costume 2014. Frozen, Of Course! Kristoff, Olaf, Elsa and Anna.
Frozen
2013 was our first foray into the group family costume spurred on mainly from these bear hat’s I found at Dollarama. We all just wore regular clothes, but it was the start to our Halloween tradition and I’m going to go with it as long as the kiddos will be willing participants. #familycostumesforlife

Family Costume 2014. Goldilocks and the three bears.
Goldilocks and the three bears
As I was looking through our photos I found these gems from the days of the couple costume just to prove how cool we were even before kids. 

*note: Anyone know how to Photoshop out that spooky string?

Couples Costume. Kenny and Dolly for the win!
Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton
Our first Couple Costume. Airline Pilot and Flight Attendant
Airline pilot and flight attendant
Now, to work on our costume for this year…It’s going to be a good one. Happy Halloween(prep) folks!

Mad for Plaid

Lately, we’ve been working on upping the ante on the dress code at work and I’ve been putting together some outfit inspirations using key pieces from our newest collections mixed with basics to inspire our staff to be more creative when putting together their outfits. And, honestly, to inspire myself, too. I love these outfits so much that I figured you guys might get a kick out of them. 

*disclaimer: in case you’ve never picked up on what I’m putting down, I currently work for Joe Fresh although they have absolutely nada to do with this blog or how much I love the clothes. I am not an affiliate and receive no compensation for talking about the product I’m just trying to keep it real with what I’m wearing, and by proxy, that means stuff (and lots of it) from my store.

The basic pieces are all classics that you probably already have sitting in your closet (and if not, it’s time to stock up!). Just add your favorite version of a plaid shirt, skirt or dress, you know, in case you don’t exclusively shop at Joe Fresh. #althoughyoushould #imightbebiased